On June 7th (Friday), the “Mom’s Classroom” held a life lecture titled “Art of Speaking with High IQ, Making You Charming” at the Cultural and Educational Center, with dozens of people attending the event. The lecture was hosted by Chen Siru, the secretary-general of the Chinese Federation, and the keynote speaker was Haixiang, a senior media person and the host of the program “Today in the World”.
Haixiang divided his speech into three parts to elaborate on his content. The first part focused on how to communicate better and more effectively, the second part on the art of speaking, and the third part on advanced techniques.
During the lecture, Haixiang pointed out that while people may think speaking equals communication, there are many barriers to communication today, such as information overload. With everyone constantly on their phones, especially professionals, getting to the point quickly is essential as modern attention spans have decreased to just 8 seconds from about 12 seconds in 2000.
To effectively convey messages, Haixiang suggested using the method of “Five Ws and One H”: Who, What, When, Where, Why, and How. This structure ensures clarity in messaging, helping to avoid misunderstandings.
He emphasized that when conveying important information, using this method can help the other party quickly grasp key points like time, location, tasks, and relevant individuals. Mastering this skill can significantly enhance communication effectiveness and ensure that the other party accurately understands your main points.
Haixiang provided an example that in the workplace, when communicating with a busy boss, it’s best to first succinctly outline key points and then provide detailed explanations. For instance, you can say to the boss, “I have three things to report today. First, I have a speech at the Cultural and Educational Center; second, I might be late coming back due to traffic; lastly, I need to handle other tasks in the afternoon.” This method improves communication efficiency, ensuring smooth message delivery.
During the lecture, Haixiang discussed how people’s attention typically diminishes after about 13 minutes, so when giving a speech or teaching, it’s important to switch topics or tell jokes every few minutes to maintain audience interest.
In social settings, adhering to this 13-minute rule is crucial when communicating with others to swiftly convey important information. The golden ratio for speaking involves letting the other person speak 60% of the time and you 40%. It’s essential to make sure they understand your content, minimize confusion, and avoid coming off as showing off.
He also stressed the importance of focusing on key points during communication and condensing them into a single sentence. Additionally, important matters can be emphasized through speaking loudly or softly – speaking loudly grabs attention, while speaking softly leaves a lasting impression. These principles of speaking aid in conveying messages effectively and ensuring smooth conversations.
A guessing game and a game where A speaks and B repeats were conducted during the lecture, creating a lively atmosphere where attendees fully understood and grasped the techniques and importance of “Art of Speaking with High IQ”.