On November 27, 2025, as Americans prepare for Thanksgiving with turkey and abundant side dishes, a different tradition has quietly returned to the table this year: a focus on enjoying precious time with family without intense arguments over differing opinions.
According to surveys, more than half of American families will actively avoid discussing controversial political topics, declaring a “truce” through their actions. Experts believe that this unspoken silence is not about avoiding issues but rather about redirecting the holiday’s focus back to the core values of Thanksgiving: connection and harmony among family members.
A recent study found that 58% of Americans are steering clear of political disagreements this Thanksgiving.
Data from savings.com shows that 24% of respondents feel that “political and/or personal disagreements” are the most stressful part of Thanksgiving.
This cultural shift comes after the label “RuinThanksgiving” spread widely on social media in 2017, prompting many to intentionally bring up political or social issues at family gatherings to disrupt the harmonious holiday atmosphere.
Etiquette expert Alison Cheperdak told Fox News that this trend of “truce” is not about avoiding topics but about preserving familial harmony.
She noted that after enduring the COVID-19 pandemic, a contentious election cycle, and endless online debates, Americans are now tired of all the conflict and simply want family warmth, not discord, when sitting down for a meal together.
Cheperdak emphasized that dodging sensitive topics has become an unspoken norm among acquaintances, as people have come to realize that these controversial discussions rarely lead to fruitful conversations over turkey and mashed potatoes. She believes that this moment calls for harmony and hospitality over trying to convince each other.
Cheperdak suggested that gracious guests know how to tactfully shift conversations, saying something like, “Let’s leave that for after dinner.” Avoiding political discussions at the table, she stressed, is not hypocrisy but rather a sign of respect for one another’s boundaries.
Communication professor Michele Williams and other experts recommend that if political topics cannot be avoided, the focus should shift from “debate,” aimed at proving oneself right, to “dialogue,” aimed at understanding the other’s perspective. This is key to maintaining family relationships and achieving true “civilized” communication.
As over half of American families steer clear of political talk at the Thanksgiving table, they are actually refocusing on the core values of this traditional holiday: reunion and gratitude.
Expressing gratitude:
They will express gratitude by sharing moments from the past year for which they are thankful or by writing down “gratitude messages,” shifting the focus from controversy to positive, thankful emotions.
Wishbone breaking:
Many families still engage in Thanksgiving prayers or toasts before the meal, and through traditions like breaking the wishbone, they express hope for good luck.
Holiday entertainment:
Thanksgiving is also an opportunity to experience the holiday spirit with family and friends outdoors. The famous Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade and American football games provide a common source of entertainment for relatives who may struggle with verbal exchanges.
Giving back to society:
One of Thanksgiving’s traditions is giving back to the community. American families also choose to participate in “Turkey Trot” events or volunteer together during this time.