In the hustle and bustle of daily life, it’s easy to overlook the importance of fostering good relationships with our neighbors. The saying goes, “A near neighbor is better than a distant relative,” highlighting the significance of having supportive neighbors who can offer assistance in times of need. So, what makes a good neighbor? Let’s take a look at a study conducted in the United Kingdom to shed some light on this topic.
According to a report by the South Wales Life magazine, a study commissioned by the Irish chocolate manufacturer Lily O’Brien’s in collaboration with the Centre for Loneliness Studies at Sheffield Hallam University aimed to identify the key characteristics of good neighbors in today’s society.
The survey conducted as part of the research revealed that eight out of ten respondents considered good neighbors to be extremely important. 58% of people firmly believed that good neighbors were essential for family happiness, and two-thirds (66%) stated that neighborhood relationships were a key factor in fostering community well-being.
Based on the survey findings, 75% of respondents believed that good neighbors should help look after their homes when they are away. 70% said good neighbors should assist in receiving parcels, while 59% felt that good neighbors should keep noise levels to a minimum.
The study listed a total of 30 expectations that respondents had for good neighbors, with the top 20 being:
1. Looking after your house when you’re away (75%)
2. Receiving parcels on your behalf (70%)
3. Keeping noise levels low (59%)
4. Always saying hello (46%)
5. Taking out the trash for you (43%)
6. Giving a heads-up before hosting a party (32%)
7. Looking after pets while you’re on vacation (26%)
8. Not parking in front of your house (25%)
9. Offering a ride when needed (22%)
10. Chatting over the garden fence (22%)
11. Allowing you to borrow their tools (22%)
12. Sharing surplus vegetables from their garden with you (21%)
13. Watering your plants (21%)
14. Inviting you for a drink during dinner (19%)
15. Inviting you for a drink on Christmas (19%)
16. Returning a lost ball (18%)
17. Giving thoughtful gifts like chocolate (18%)
18. Recommending retailers (18%)
19. Not criticizing your takeaway habits (17%)
20. Lending sugar, eggs, or milk (16%)
The study also identified five typical types of neighbors, with “The Watcher” being the most common. This type of neighbor, as reported by 39% of respondents, is always watching and aware of everything happening around them.
Following closely, “The Ghost” comprised 34% of respondents who are rarely seen but exist, while “Elected Official,” at 32%, is the preferred choice for seeking advice and information.
Additionally, 13% of respondents mentioned having “Party Animal” neighbors who are noisy and frequently host gatherings. There are also neighbors known as “The Borrower,” who are always asking for sugar, tools, and even bathwater.
Andrea Wigfield, Director of the Centre for Loneliness Studies, emphasized that forging intimate relationships with those around us can significantly impact our lives. She highlighted the importance of building meaningful connections to prevent loneliness, strengthen community bonds, and foster a sense of belonging and acceptance.
Despite 92% of respondents believing they are good neighbors, 39% admitted to knowing only their neighbors’ names without their surnames. On average, Britons chat with their neighbors 13 times a month, but most have not had a proper conversation with their neighbors for 39 days.
Wigfield suggested simple ways to rekindle neighborly relationships, advocating for exchanging greetings and engaging in conversations that can lead to sharing moments over a cup of coffee, a slice of cake, or even some chocolates.
She mentioned, “Sharing food is always a good idea, no matter what you decide to do. Sharing food is an excellent way to establish new relationships and strengthen existing ones – whether it’s a cup of tea, a piece of cake, a meal, or even a simple treat like chocolate.”
Collaborating with Lily O’Brien’s during this Christmas season, broadcaster, podcaster, and writer Angela Scanlon highlighted the importance of coming together with both family and neighbors during the holidays to nurture relationships.
She stressed that fostering friendships with neighbors isn’t just about having someone to rely on but also feeling the warmth of home within the community and creating a sense of belonging. Whether it’s storing keys for each other or sharing sweets across the hedge, small gestures can go a long way in building lasting connections.
She concluded by suggesting reaching out to neighbors this holiday season, whether through a heartfelt card, a box of chocolates, or a simple visit, as it may lead to forming lifelong friendships.