In a recent article on CNBC, Dr. Cortney S. Warren, a psychologist from Harvard Medical School, highlighted seven key phrases that couples who “truly trust each other” often use to navigate their way through an “ideal relationship.”
According to Dr. Warren, successful relationships allow individuals to feel emotionally secure, deeply connected, and free to be their authentic selves with each other. For many of us, she notes, the facade of romance may sometimes conceal deep-rooted feelings of insecurity.
As a trained psychologist from Harvard, Dr. Warren frequently advises couples that the cornerstone of emotional security in a relationship lies in “recognizing what is lovable about yourself, while believing that your partner can accept, care about, and genuinely like that aspect of you, whether you’re at a peak or a valley in life.”
Drawing from her research, Dr. Warren has compiled seven phrases that couples who truly trust each other use daily to help establish an ideal marital relationship.
The first phrase: “You see me as I am.”
Feeling secure in a relationship means never having to hide certain parts of oneself. When discussing pain or difficult topics, one can comfortably show vulnerability, even touching on uncomfortable subjects, because they believe their partner will respond with empathy rather than criticism.
Similar sentiments include:
– “Thank you for loving me as I am.”
– “I appreciate that I can be myself with you.”
The second phrase: “I trust you.”
Trust forms the foundation of security. Whether together or apart, one trusts that their partner’s actions are consistent. They know who their partner is and believe that their partner has their best interests at heart.
Similar expressions include:
– “Thank you for being respectful of me and our relationship.”
– “We’re a team, and I trust that you want what’s best for the both of us.”
The third phrase: “We’ll get through this.”
No matter how strong a marital relationship is, conflicts may arise. The crucial point is to hold the line, not to panic or threaten to go separate ways when disagreements occur, but rather to believe that no obstacle is insurmountable.
Similar phrases include:
– “One tough phase doesn’t mean it’s over for us.”
– “Let’s figure this out together.”
The fourth phrase: “Go out and have fun with your friends!”
A solid marital relationship means allowing each other independent space, recognizing the need for solitude and social activities outside the home without feeling threatened during separations – instead, trusting that temporary separations reinforce emotional understanding.
Similar expressions include:
– “I’m glad you’re making time for yourself.”
– “Thanks for giving me the space when I need it, too.”
The fifth phrase: “I miss you!”
Missing someone doesn’t mean being clingy; it signifies mutual longing. Even as you support each other’s personal space, you still eagerly anticipate coming back together.
Similar phrases include:
– “Being apart helps me realize how grateful I am for you.”
– “I’ll be excited to see you when you get home.”
The sixth phrase: “Can we talk?”
A secure marital relationship allows space for resolving conflicts. When something doesn’t feel right, you’re not afraid to speak your mind because you trust that your partner will listen attentively and cherish your thoughts.
Similar phrases:
– “There’s something I’d like to check in about.”
– “I’ve been feeling a little off and I want to make sure we’re okay.”
The seventh phrase: “Let’s make a plan!”
In a marriage, it’s vital to be grounded yet forward-thinking, preparing for the future, starting with small things and establishing investment plans for shared long-term goals, discovering each other’s potential and other valuable aspects through mutual support.
Similar expressions include:
– “Can we go over our schedules?”
– “I’m really looking forward to our trip.”
A secure, stable marital relationship requires time to stand the test, not something that can be achieved overnight. Sharing intimate information with a partner is an essential, meaningful adventure that requires thorough preparation to ensure a smooth path forward.
【This article referenced a report from CNBC】